Hi Master,

I read a book that says having too many water elements is detrimental if mother element is fire. Lately I have been studying BaZi and I think I might be the one causing problems for my mother. For the past few years since returning home, I have been arguing a lot with my mother and every time we argue I would feel really bad afterward because I know the problem probably comes from me because of my BaZi chart. I know I need to shut my mouth but sometimes she won't let me do anything I want to do. I'm a grown adult and I should be able to make decisions for myself in life but she ALWAYS wants to make decisions for me and it makes me so upset.

I moved away from home early this year and now she is thinking about moving in with me... I don't want to make her upset anymore so i decided to let her do what she wants.

Since water is strong in my chart, do you think it's a bad idea that she is moving in with me?

Thanks

Yes your too much water is bad for your relationship with your mother especially when 巳亥 clash. Your BaZi shows that you will argue with her a lot but later when you calm down you regret what you did. 

You have a very concern mother. Listen more to her and try to use this to train your patient. This training will help you a lot in all your future undertakings. You do not need to follow and do all that she has said but she would be able to give you some good advice.

It is good to let her move in with you again you need to live in harmony with her. You can be temperamental and lose your patience and this provide a good time for you to improve. All mothers always regard their children as kid and would wants to make decisions for them. This take time for them to change; talk to her nicely and she will understand once she notice that you able to make the right choice.

Cheers.

Hello Peter,

Thank you for taking your time to read my post. Actually I'm feeling a lot better after reading your post.

My mother is moving in next week and I plan to take this time to learn to be more patient. You are right, I can be quite temperamental at times. I understand this is something I need to improve on for sure.

And yes I do have a very concerned mother. She has been this way since I was young and sometimes her overprotectiveness gets really annoying. I guess she is only being this way for my own good.

Thanks again