For Strong daymaster 旺 "Indirect Resource" 卩 indicates stubbornness and headstrong and for her "Indirect Resource" is her bad stars.

Two "Indirect Resource" happened to be at the heavenly stems Hour and Month pillar. Have strong foundation from Hour and Month branch.
"Indirect Resource" represent mother and she is drown with her mother's love and all her resource. This make her headstrong and always want everyone around her to obey her.  Currently she is having a major attitude stubbornness problem.

Especially in the year 2009, she is very eh... uncontrollable and very stubborn.

You will definitely spends more time with her. Parents often show inconsistency and impatience in disciplining their children. Try not to give in to extra demands. She will gradually learn that her tantrums will not bring any reward. Children often try to test the parents’ firmness. If you give in, her demands will increase next time. There was no need for you to come into the scene when your wife lost her patience.